Tuesday, May 26, 2009

The kindness of IF strangers turned friends

I just want to say that I hope my previous post didn't offend anyone. My dear friend, S, gave me some enlightening perspective on why not everyone visits the cemetary as often as I do and it makes complete sense. As S reminded me I go to Myles's grave to grieve a loss that is still fresh and raw whereas many others go to a grave of their long lost loved ones once in awhile simpley to pay tribute. I feel terrible for being annoyed and for saying this becaue I think I may have given the impression that going once a year isn't enough or doesn't show true love or sadness over a loss. I didn't mean that and am grateful that S helped me understand. Please accept my apologies if I may have offended you.

I have been meaning to give a shout out to my dear IF blogger friend, Cortney, for an amazing and kind thing she did for me. Cortney noticed me mention the high out-of-pocket costs we incurr for Endo.metrin and offered to send me a bunch of extra that she had. Cortney isn't cycling at the moment, but has some embabies waiting for her in the freezer when she's ready. Since she's currently in limbo and her insurance covers the meds, she was happy to give it to someone who needed it. I was so touched and appreciative of her offer. I immediately messaged her to say that I (I mean K) would love the meds, so she packaged them up and sent them my way.

When I got home from work on Friday I saw a large box on my front steps, which I immediately opened to find the Endo.metrin and a number of other goodies! There was a long, heartfelt hand-written letter from Cortney explaining all of the other gifts in the package. She thoughtfully included a box of brownie mix for me to make for K after the ET, four frisbees to give to K's boys, a ceramic frog to put on Myles's grave (shown in previous post), and four boxes of Endo.metrin plus a few loose suppositories (this much would cost me over $1000). Cortney said that she wanted to "send a little hope and love" with her gift, so she included two heart-shaped stones that say "love" and "hope". I feel so fortunate to be so loved and am very full of hope for this cycle. Not too long ago Cortney donated some of her stimming meds to another girl who ended up getting a bfp, so we're hoping that the rest of her meds are just as lucky! I am so moved and amazed by Cortney's kindness. I met Cortney on a message board and now consider her to be my friend. Thank you for being so darn amazing Cortney. Please pop over to her blog to tell her just how wonderful she is!

12 comments:

rayettemcg1 said...

What a great gift!! I remember getting donated meds during my IVF cycle and when my case manager gave me the boxes that would have cost $700-$1000 I started to choke up and cry because I felt so grateful that people were so caring to donate left over meds in return anything I had left over I gave it to the fertilty center to help another person. Good luck this cycle Niki and K and I will be blowing some baby dust from Alaska to you. I am sure it will make it since it is blowing like crazy around here. xoxo

Duck said...

So thoughtful!
I really like her sending all the love and hope too! Isn't it great to get the gifts of meds?

Kris said...

What an awesome care package she sent. Not only was the endometrin a huge gift, but the other thoughtful things she sent were much more priceless.

Soko's Journey to Parenthood said...

That is really awesome and so sweet of her. It's amazing the people you meet and make lasting friendships with during this process. Hopefully you and Courtney continue to stay in touch and grow that friendship for years to come. Kudos to you Courtney and God Bless.

I have meds left as well that I will never use and would love to share with you or anyone you may know that is going through this process. I never knew what to do with the left over unused medications since our first cycle worked and is still going well. Hate to throw them out and would love to share if you know anyone that may need or want them :) Just let me know. I just think that's a great thing to do to help others reach their dreams too.

Glad you are in better spirits and I am keeping you in my prayers this all works out for you in the end.

Take care and keep thinking positive :)

Tracy

Rebecca said...

Aw, I'm so glad Cortney was able and willing to help you out in this way. The other gifts are so special...she must be a wonderful person. I only wish I had the opportunity to help others in that way as well. We all do what we can, but at times I feel that I fall very short.
I am so glad that you are filled with hope for this IVF. Keeping you in my heart now and always!

Sara said...

What a great gift from Cortney! Very sweet and hopefully very lucky, too :) Thinking of you lots these next few weeks!!

Jaymee said...

what a wonderful gift.

Brenna said...

Yay for friends like Cortney! What a sweet, thoughtful, generous person. I hope this brings you extra luck!

Erica said...

I've been MIA, but I'm still reading and looking forward to hearing about this cycle!

It's terrific that you have such a wonderfully thoughtful friend in your life.

Andrea said...

Aww, I'm crying! What a great, thoughtful gift and friend. Isn't it amazing the good people blogging brings into your life? In my experience the good and honest blog friends far outweigh the negativity.

Bluebird said...

Unbelievable. I love when I can shake my head and mutter "some people" - in a good way :)

thenewsestnewsome said...

What a great blessing! I recently donated all of my meds when we decided to move on to adoption. After homestudy visit #1 my husband returns to the surrogacy idea- yikes! Heres hoping that $5k of donated meds gets someone a bfp!
You have been blessed!
(bnew from SMO)