Saturday, December 13, 2008

Feeling grateful today

Last night I went to a Christmas party for my aunt's catering group (I work for her catering weddings in the summer when I'm not teaching). It was a nice time, but everyone of course talked about babies and getting pregnant. Some of the women are older and were talking about their new grandchildren. Others are younger and were talking about having oops pregnancies while on the pill while a few of the others around my age were talking about using multiple forms of birth control, so they don't get pregnant again. Seriously?! Anyway most of it was difficult for me to endure, but when they were complaining about their husbands I felt fortunate. J is such a wonderful man who helps out around the house. In fact our relationship is more like a team--we were together towards the same goal in almost everything we do. Of course we have our differences and disagreements, but all in all we work well together. J doesn't think it's my job to clean the house or do the laundry--actually he does all of the laundry (I never do it) and does his share of cleaning. Sure I do most of the cooking, but that's because I like to do it. J does most of the yardwork because he likes that. This is our house and we both do our fair share to take care of it.

After the party I met J and a close friend of ours to have a drink. This dear friend is currently going through a divorce because her husband had an on-going affair. She tried to work it out with him, but he refused to end the extramarital relationship. Her husband was a close friend of ours too, which makes the situation even more difficult and strange for us. As I sat there listening to my friend talk about her future worries of dating, etc.. I realized yet again for the 2nd time that night how lucky I was to have my loving, helpful, trustworthy husband. I spend a good deal of my time feeling sorry for myself and for all that I've gone through, but last night I spent several hours feeling very fortunate. I am married to an amazing man who always knows how to make me laugh! I love you J and am so fortunate to call you my husband!

8 comments:

Intending To Be Parents said...

Yay for good husbands!! Such a great thing that you have a great life partner like J. I definitely count my lucky stars for my DH. It's funny when you said J does yard work and laundry and shares the cleaning and you cook - that's exactly what we have going on in our house and it works great! :) I know it's hard to hear other women have those conversations about pregnancies, but soon with the help of K you will be bringing home your baby (or two according to K's dream!) and hearing those conversations will hopefully be made a little bit easier.

Lisa said...

Niki - what a great post! Mr. M is the same for me and I do not know what I would do without him.

I am so excited for you, J and K - it seems as though there is so much love there and it is beautiful to witness - even from this vantage point.

Duck said...

I feel the same way about my husband and it's a comfort isn't it?

Tom and Margit said...

You look beautiful in the picture of you two and happy :)
Margit

Kris said...

Niki-
I completely agree! Isn't it nice to have someone that you can count on, no matter what? You, J and K are all amazing and I am so grateful that I met you!
Kris

Jen said...

Good husbands rock. There is not a day that goes by that I don't feel thankful for my hubby. Thanks for reminding me of that today.

Lost in Space said...

Having one of the "good ones" truly makes all the difference.

Sheri-ct said...

J sounds wonderful:). It's a nice feeling having a great DH!