Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Remembering Myles on his birthday

Thank you so much for all of your kind words and birthday wishes for Mr. Myles. Several friends and family sent gifts, cards, emails, and called to tell us that they were remembering Myles with us today. We feel so fortunate to have so many wonderful people IRL and in the blogworld thinking of us and remembering Myles with us. Although I spent most of the day in tears, I have taken time to remember the miracle our son was and to think about how fortunate and blessed we were to have him. J and I did a variety of things together today to celebrate and remember Myles...

We started our day of celebration and remembrance by putting a bouquet of balloons at Myles's grave.

Our friends, M & J and the G & P familes, gave us gifts to put on Myles's grave. M & J gave us a little truck and the G & P families gave us a small teddy bear and birthday balloon.


J's Dad and his wife came to have lunch with us. They visited Myles's grave and left him a white rose.

J and I went to a local bakery to purchase a cupcake to share for Myles's birthday, but couldn't agree on a flavor so we each got one--I got chocolate indulgence and J got red velvet. We decorated our cupcakes with one candle, sang happy birthday to our angel and each of us made a wish as we blew out the candles.

We surrounded Myles's grave with the seven rainbow colored, star-shaped ice lanterns that I made last week.

The lanterns were absolutely beautiful glowing in the darkness and will likely glow through the night. I thought these lanterns would be perfect to commemorate the day our bright shining star entered our lives.


Our dear friends, G & P families, sent us an aromatherapy candle from Earth Mama Angel Baby, which we lit and are still burning for Myles. The candle is called "Light of My Heart" and reads--"I light this candle in celebration for all I know you would have been. I look into the light, feel the brightness of your spirit and the spark touches my heart. I am filled with the aroma, a tangible reminder of the depth of my love for you. As I extinguish the flame, the smoke rises giving flight to some small part of my pain. Your precious light will remain burning in my heart forevermore." I thought this was so touching and so true!

21 comments:

Rebecca said...

Niki, the decorations are beautiful. I'm so sorry you have to celebrate Myles' life in this way...
Wishing I could do more to ease your pain, sending you love always.

Lisa said...

Niki - I love the lanterns. More ((HUGS))

Erin said...

What a beautiful tribute.

Bonny said...

The lanterns really are beautiful.

Duck said...

What a great tribute.

Mrs. Spit said...

Happy birthday sweet boy.

Bobbi said...

I have no words........just tears for you and your little boy

Poppy said...

Delurking to wish your Sweet Baby Myles a Happy Birthday.

I've been reading your blog for a few months now. I can't remember how I found you.

Six short weeks ago, on Dec. 3rd, we lost our first grandson to what we believe was SIDS (awaiting the coroners report for confirmation). I was taking care of him while my son and his wife were at work and I went to check on him while he was napping only to find he had stopped breathing. He was 10 wks. old. It's been a rough time to say the least. We are all heartbroken.

I can empathize with you and how difficult you are finding all of these firsts. Going to the cemetery on Christmas to "see" our grandson was so NOT the way it was suppose to be.

The lanterns you made are beautiful and I'd love to know how you made them. We purchased an eternal candle for Jayden's gravesite and we are comforted that there is always a little light there for him. But the lanterns you made are beautiful and I think they'd make a lovely touch for special times.

God bless you and your husband.

Thinking of you both and Myles.

Caroline said...

Niki,
I have just found your blog, and have been touched beyond words at your story.
What an inspiration Myles is to us all.
Your lanterns are beautiful.

Tom and Margit said...

It is all just beautiful!
You are such a wonderful person and he is lucky to have a mom and dad like you and J!
Margit

Heather said...

That is so beautiful. What a wonderful tribute to Myles.

A Mom in Jacksonville, FL said...

What an amazing woman you are! The tributes for your sweet boy are just beautiful. I SO admire your strength. Praying for you, DH, and your family.

Intending To Be Parents said...

The ice lanterns are absolutely beautiful. And what an appropriate message with the candle you received. You made Myles' birthday such a very special day.

Travelwahine said...

Beautiful!

Myles, Happy Birthday. I believe in heaven, and believe you are there with my son as well.

Hugs to both of you.

Dalene said...

Those are wonderful ways to remember Myles. Thanks for the ideas. I am coming up on my son's first birthday in April and am starting to think about how to honor him.

mom23greatgirls said...

Niki - the ice lanterns really are so beautiful. Big, huge hugs from someone that you've never even met, from here in Georgia.

Jill M. said...

Dear Niki, this is the first time I've been to your blog and I am so incredibly sorry for all you've been through. I watched your video tribune and bawled my head off. You have a very special angel watching over you. The grave site was beautiful, especially the ice lanterns. Happy Birthday Myles! Huge Hugs!

mylifechronicles said...

So beautiful!
Happy Birthday Myles!
Niki, you are an inspiration to all of us. May God help you and your DH through these tough times.

Lost in Space said...

What a beautiful way to honor your sweet Myles. Many hugs, Niki.

abgs said...

What a precious tribute to your son Myles. Your story and your strength is touching more lifes then you will ever realize.

Sheri-ct said...

Everything is so beautiful. Sending prayers to you and J.