Sunday, April 26, 2009

Clarification

I read my comments for today's post and want to thank those of you who've shared your thoughts regarding these issues. After reading Mary's comment I want to apologize and clarify what I was trying to say. I am sorry if I gave any of you, my blogreaders, the impression that you were the ones saying the trite platitudes. You are NOT! Anyone who takes the time to read my blog and follows my journey is sincere when they wish me well. This includes the girls on the message boards who have followed my journey over the years. I was referring to the newbies on threads I frequent who don't even take the time to read my siggy to get a snapshot of my TTC history before they tell me that they "know it will happen for me someday" or some even say things like "someday you will be a mommy". Well you can guess how much that one makes my blood boil! I am very fortunate to have such a strong following here in the blogosphere and can't thank all of you enough for your continued support and encouragement. I was just annoyed with some recent insensitive comments to me and others on some message board threads. I am grateful that there are brave, caring women IRL and in the blogosphere who are willing to walk with me through the flames. So, thank you!

Mary, I apologize for making you cringe after reading my recent post as that was not my intention. I have to admit that I don't know who you are on SC (what's your screenname?), but I do appreciate your support here on my blog and on the boards. There are some girls on SC who aren't sensitive to the heartaches of others and that was what was annoying me. There was a particular incident recently on SC where one of my friends who's going through hell right (her water broke for one of her twins at 17wks) and some newbie ignored this and went on and on about her new triplet pregnancy without even saying she was sorry for what my friend is going through. It just pissed me off and put me over the edge. It wasn't/isn't you or any of my other friends on the boards. Please accept my apology and gratitude for your support.

2 comments:

suz said...

It's hard, people don't know what to say, after both of my miscarriages I dealt with the stupidest things said by some of my closest friends. Just having one person "get it" means so much, and all someone needs to say is "I'm sorry." It's pretty easy.

Meagan said...

i'm sorry that you are feeling this way. i hope you know that you always have my support. i can't begin to understand what it is like to carry a baby that long, deliver the baby and hold him and watch him die. it isn't fair and there's nothing that can explain such a tragedy. it was 4 1/2 years of ttc before i was blessed with my daughter and your post reminds me of the feelings i had during that time. i do believe in God and i do feel that my ongoing experience with infertility has taught me a greater empathy for people and their situations.....we never will fully understand where someone else is coming from and they, likewise, will never understand where we're coming from because everyone lives their own life. Just know that I'm always rooting you on and wanting the best for you. i am excited to see you moving forward with this process and hope you will be bringing a sibling for myles into this world soon! prayers for peace and comfort are coming your way. love, Meagan (MegB on SC)