tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post8369592353359550363..comments2023-10-21T04:30:13.882-05:00Comments on My Journey to Myles and Beyond to Surrogacy: Pregnancy AnnouncementNikihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18301986722909738137noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-31308724381267847592014-02-05T12:30:28.311-06:002014-02-05T12:30:28.311-06:00Thank you so much for posting this. I got on googl...Thank you so much for posting this. I got on google looking for the "way" to tell friends and family and this is perfect!.https://www.blogger.com/profile/02852743783727947029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-85564608510312990462009-09-24T00:31:15.981-05:002009-09-24T00:31:15.981-05:00Niki,
I found your blog through a link from anothe...Niki,<br />I found your blog through a link from another web site and I am so glad that I did. After reading this post I went back and read you blog from the beginning. I have never cried and laughed and wondered so much in my life. Thank you for putting it all out there and sharing with us annonymous strangers your lifes experiences. My sister lost one of her twin girls (also a micro-premie) after three days of hard battle. You remind me so much of her and I am going to share your blog with her ASAP. <br />I also hear much of my own grief and heartache over infertility and miscarriage in what you write. Thank you for letting me know that I am not alone in my struggle and that while hope has sometimes gone missing, it is never trully lost and always found where least expected. <br /><br />Thank you so very mcuh,<br />BethanyUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08944817065903713306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-91211801922673057222009-09-07T20:34:19.566-05:002009-09-07T20:34:19.566-05:00Hey N! I just got back in town and am catching up ...Hey N! I just got back in town and am catching up on blogs...I was so happy to see you were able to use this! I hope you get as many positive responses as I did - so many people were really grateful for the "details". :) Isn't it great finally letting people know?Nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04748630470893294294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-85989496936973531622009-09-02T09:58:21.819-05:002009-09-02T09:58:21.819-05:00Thank you so much for this wonderful post. You so...Thank you so much for this wonderful post. You so generously answered many questions that most of us who don't go this route are likely to have. <br /><br />What a special woman your cousin is do this for you. Best wishes to all of you.MoDLinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10962353800803717089noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-2894368836100640902009-09-01T09:35:08.409-05:002009-09-01T09:35:08.409-05:00Well said! I think the FAQ section is perfect. I s...Well said! I think the FAQ section is perfect. I spent a lot of time answering all those same questions - as did my sister!<br />To the anon posters - this is a public blog so it may feel like you can say anything. And I guess you can, but why be so nasty? Be nice. Have a heart. And don't be so quick to judge. I imagine you would be grateful for the same courtesy in your own lives.Karma & Adamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06288732761739516540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-30549649125389744332009-08-31T23:47:02.592-05:002009-08-31T23:47:02.592-05:00First time commenter but I've been following y...First time commenter but I've been following your blog for awhile. I have to say, while it's heart breaking that you have had to go through so much to get to this point towards parenthood, congratulations Niki! I hope everything goes well in K's pregnancy and you get to take your babies home. <br /><br />To all the anon commenters, if you have nothing nice to say, go say it to yourself in front of a mirror. Obviously, none of you have ever been through the pain of losing a child, let alone not being able to concieve by yourself. If you had, you would never make such ignorant comments. Is it just as "self indulgent" to announce a pregnancy at 13 weeks, if you were the one carrying the babies? You wouldn't be showing at that point yet, so why bother announcing. What's the difference between that and Niki announcing her pregnancy via K's body, it's still her babies. And I don't know if you ever took biology, but a child gets its genetic makeup from from 2 sources- the egg and the sperm. What part of the uterus affects children's makeup? It is a sweet and a lovely gesture of familial strength and understanding, and K will always be part of those babies lives, just not genetically. <br />It's people like you guys that almost make me want to believe abortion is a good thing- maybe then none of you would be around.Funsizehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04651428802167787415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-127810036241356282009-08-31T22:03:53.560-05:002009-08-31T22:03:53.560-05:00WTF!?!? To the latest anonymous commenter: Is this...WTF!?!? To the latest anonymous commenter: Is this the only post you've read on Niki's blog? Can you imagine how complicated it could be to explain surrogacy to people who are likely completely ignorant about reproductive technology?<br /><br />I am currently pregnant via donor embryo, and I am not in the slightest bit insulted by what Niki has written. If you'd read her other posts you would know how much she values and honors her cousin's role in bringing her children into the world. There is so much love between these two women as they go through this together.<br /><br />Also, if you'd read her other posts, you'd know how much loss Niki has suffered. I can't understand why anyone would want to cause her more pain.Dorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16255190971670471758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-10694441180182068252009-08-31T19:43:11.598-05:002009-08-31T19:43:11.598-05:00I find it insulting that you imply that your surro...I find it insulting that you imply that your surrogate is "just carrying your babies." She is nourishing them, her blood is flowing to them and is helping create the people they will be. It's not simply a "rent-a-womb" thing. You should be more compassionate about it. Just cause you used your eggs doesn't mean she doesn't contribute to your children's makeup. In fact, I would argue that she is contributing MORE than you since you "just provided the DNA" and she provide the rest of the elements to sustain these lives. Don't kind yourself that just cause these children have your DNA that your surrogate isn't contributing anything else but a rental space for 10 months. It's an insult to your surrogate and to women who use donor egg to conceive. Shame on you. <br /><br />Kathy W.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-16120358604156609812009-08-30T10:18:20.004-05:002009-08-30T10:18:20.004-05:00Oh wow...I just saw that horrible anonymous commen...Oh wow...I just saw that horrible anonymous comment. I'm so sorry. To that anonymous commenter...you should be ashamed of yourself!sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05816972200056579468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-17291363617840853142009-08-30T10:16:40.981-05:002009-08-30T10:16:40.981-05:00Wow - this is such a perfect way of answering thos...Wow - this is such a perfect way of answering those questions that many people unfamiliar with infertility or gestational carriers would have. Well put! I'll have to remember it when we do our own gestational carrier cycle coming up :-)sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05816972200056579468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-91899767540320780782009-08-29T19:39:32.028-05:002009-08-29T19:39:32.028-05:00Niki - Fabulous idea! I love it, and I hopefully w...Niki - Fabulous idea! I love it, and I hopefully will be able to steal this idea from you sometime soon :)<br /><br />Kelly (who wdoes not have a profile) and Anonymous (so brave of you to insult someone without leaving your name). How is this your business? Seriously, how Niki chooses to communicate this amazing wonderful news is HER BUSINESS, why is it self indulgent to explain to her FRIENDS what is happening in her life? It's pretty obvious that both of you have never been through the difficult, life changing experiences that Niki has been through and love to sit on the sidelines criticizing those of us who are brave enough to walk this road. <br />Please F* off.The Intended Parentshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09349589517936158127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-40285783841958999612009-08-29T19:06:29.893-05:002009-08-29T19:06:29.893-05:00Niki-So sorry some have to be selfish and make nas...Niki-So sorry some have to be selfish and make nasty comments. Maybe you should block the anonymous posts again. Would be worth the peace of mind. You know we are rooting for you! :)Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01182799970023518351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-11020881294587292772009-08-29T12:40:47.729-05:002009-08-29T12:40:47.729-05:00I love your direct way of speaking and explanation...I love your direct way of speaking and explanations. Your students are lucky to have such a good teacher! You've explained things with details and simplicity. Love it!<br /><br />Also, you are so blessed to have your cousin as a surrogate, two beautiful babies bakin' in the oven, a wonderful and loving hubby, and a darling baby angel in Heaven. Truly blessed! Myles is looking out for you all. That's for sure! He loves his new sibs to be! :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-2301625812230432092009-08-29T09:03:38.132-05:002009-08-29T09:03:38.132-05:00Niki - I think that was a great way to explain thi...Niki - I think that was a great way to explain things without having to play 20 questions with each and every co-worker. Inducing lactation? I have never heard of that before, but it is awesome that it is an available option! I'm glad you're enjoying the ride this time. Feb. will be here before you know it!Ginanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-76556116898865860582009-08-29T08:02:11.359-05:002009-08-29T08:02:11.359-05:00I think that's an awesome email, especially si...I think that's an awesome email, especially since many people have NO clue about surragacy etc. I think you worded everything beautifully.<br /><br />Who the hell are these anon commenters that everyone's been dealing with lately?? Leave us alone.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09211028670642739808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-89009789842045363722009-08-29T07:25:11.946-05:002009-08-29T07:25:11.946-05:00Niki,
I think it was very well written and is a f...Niki,<br /><br />I think it was very well written and is a fabulous way to share all the details for those people who are part of your "school family" that want more details. <br /><br />I so enjoy reading this blog and am beyond touched by your love for Myles and the additional blessings on the way. <br /><br />Thank you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-59531256180151895772009-08-28T23:56:38.804-05:002009-08-28T23:56:38.804-05:00Kelly (and Anonymous), the staff and faculty at th...Kelly (and Anonymous), the staff and faculty at the high school where I work are like a "family". This type of email is a pretty common occurrence around our school. We update each other on major events (e.g., marriage, pregnancy, cancer diagnoses) that are occurring in our lives and everyone seems to appreciate the updates. As you may have noticed I didn't go into all the details of gestational surrogacy in the body of my message--I simply made the general announcement and attached the rest. Therefore, those who weren't interested didn't have to read it. <br /><br />You may call this self-indulgent and unprofessional, but you don't know me and you certainly don't know my work "family". So, it's a pretty unfair assessment.Nikihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18301986722909738137noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-82252674158814940592009-08-28T23:26:42.042-05:002009-08-28T23:26:42.042-05:00I kinda agree a bit about this being a bit self in...I kinda agree a bit about this being a bit self indulgent; it just seems unprofessional to send this mass email to all of your colleagues.Kellynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-49141099645449889812009-08-28T23:10:35.747-05:002009-08-28T23:10:35.747-05:00Great email. I'm sure it will stop you from h...Great email. I'm sure it will stop you from having to answer repetitively. As an added bonus there is nothing for the rumour mill to talk about...<br /><br />I can't wait to hear the reactions...Tanyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12453319065354041573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-49579699836664879532009-08-28T22:37:09.226-05:002009-08-28T22:37:09.226-05:00Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and...Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and educating people along the way. You and your family are so amazing and I feel honored to be able to read this. <br /><br />I hope it doesn't seem stalker-ish but you, Myles, K, your twinnies and your hubby are always in my thoughts! <br /><br />Take care!<br />Andrea<br />www.missprissdoesablog.wordpress.comAndreahttp://www.missprissdoesablog.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-13426427797011694372009-08-28T21:49:40.442-05:002009-08-28T21:49:40.442-05:00Dear Anonymous at 6:04pm on 8/28,
Self indulgent h...Dear Anonymous at 6:04pm on 8/28,<br />Self indulgent huh? It seems to me that you are the one who is self indulgent putting down someone like Niki, whom I doubt you have had the pleasure of knowing. Did you have a bad day? Did you need to rain on someone's parade in order to avoid kicking the dog today? I wonder what purpose it has served you to try to make someone who has already been through a living nightmare feel shitty again now that she is finally allowing herself to enjoy some much deserved joy, positivity and happiness.<br /><br />May you never know the pain she has felt, although I suspect it's the only way you would ever understand where she is coming from.<br /><br />It took a lot for me to wish you well in your future. If I were a lesser person I would have just told you to go fuck yourself. Peace to you and all those you love. I hope none of your babies ever die in your arms.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05262797589848236005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-21090387931171861232009-08-28T20:47:22.743-05:002009-08-28T20:47:22.743-05:00Oh, internet trolls. Don'cha love 'em? T...Oh, internet trolls. Don'cha love 'em? They hide behind the word "anonymous" on their computer screen and spew ignorant garbage that exposes them as the small and thoughtless people that they truly are inside.<br /><br />Clearly, being so put off by Niki's excitement and happiness over this glorious time in her life points to one thing: Jealousy. Don't waste even one minute thinking about this nincompoop's worthless comment, Niki.<br /><br />I can't tell you how happy I am to log in to your blog each week and see those gestational weeks numbers going up up up! :)Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02434978956828211510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-2099131460901252692009-08-28T20:21:18.430-05:002009-08-28T20:21:18.430-05:00I just can't believe that someone would come a...I just can't believe that someone would come and say something like that and make comments for all J & N have been through! I think the person whoever wrote that is a total loser because you ahve to do it Anonymous!<br /><br />Niki, I sure wished i knew more about it, because i alway thought it would cost 30k to have a surrogate! But i am loving the 2 girls that got placed in our home and hopefully be able to adopt them or children that do come in our home!<br />Hugs Niki, I am so blessed that you are going to have 2 living children and Myles is sooooo lucky to have you and parents and be the big brother!!!TeriLynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15171069475741038171noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-44598935950429931032009-08-28T20:08:54.296-05:002009-08-28T20:08:54.296-05:00Perfect, Niki. I'm glad you are doing somethi...Perfect, Niki. I'm glad you are doing something to let people know. Those rumor mills can run rampant and putting everything out there in your words is wonderful.<br /><br />I also like that it gets some dialogue started. If you were pregnant the physical reminders would be there for people to think to ask about.<br /><br />To the anonymous "self indulgent" commenter: It's so easy to sit behind that anonymous curtain and say whatever you want. Please just go away.Lost in Spacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07027117135940864685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-8854159167223571882009-08-28T19:53:05.220-05:002009-08-28T19:53:05.220-05:00For the person who said this seems "quite ind...For the person who said this seems "quite indulgent", I think it is very sad that you feel the need to put Niki down like that. You don't deserve to even be able to read a blog like this, which has helped countless people. Respectfully, please keep your insensitive and uncalled for comments to yourself. <br /><br />KristyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com