tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post3050990390426137576..comments2023-10-21T04:30:13.882-05:00Comments on My Journey to Myles and Beyond to Surrogacy: Apparently I'm Now a ScroogeNikihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18301986722909738137noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-12543290524004884572008-11-29T19:37:00.000-06:002008-11-29T19:37:00.000-06:00I've decided to get a small white tree just for Co...I've decided to get a small white tree just for Cooper's ornaments. I'm starting to get quite a few. It has been 4 years since I have put up a tree. Kinda feel like what's the point.Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07175029909022567273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-64749989012597136732008-11-27T09:37:00.000-06:002008-11-27T09:37:00.000-06:00If your mom hasn't lost a baby, she can't possibly...If your mom hasn't lost a baby, she can't possibly understand how you need to deal with that loss. It's easy for other people to tell you how you should or should not be feeling, but only you know what you need to do to get through the holidays. However you do it, you're doing it right. <BR/><BR/>You do have something to be very grateful for this Thanksgiving - you have a wonderful person in your life willing to bring a baby into the world for you. What a wonderful thing that is!Nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04748630470893294294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-68190775073722437312008-11-27T09:30:00.000-06:002008-11-27T09:30:00.000-06:00Happy Thanksgiving, Friend!Erin :)Happy Thanksgiving, Friend!<BR/><BR/>Erin :)MRS. ERIN SMITHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18096636319670761899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-41123362066710924922008-11-27T05:27:00.000-06:002008-11-27T05:27:00.000-06:00Niki, you have every right to miss your son and fe...Niki, you have every right to miss your son and feel sad that he isn't here with you. I love the idea of putting up a tree in Myles' honor ... and do post photos of your plan to decorate for him, too!<BR/><BR/>I hope the ball gets rolling faster with your cousin! I am so hopeful for you!!!Irish Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13222992447645337845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-9629050035225150872008-11-26T20:52:00.000-06:002008-11-26T20:52:00.000-06:00I'm sorry. I refuse to acknowledge the holidays th...I'm sorry. I refuse to acknowledge the holidays this year either. My family is ok with it but DH is feeling a bit robbed I think. We do what we have to.<BR/><BR/>Glad your IVF is progressing.Bustedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09926427330808873296noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-50799560180851630762008-11-26T20:36:00.000-06:002008-11-26T20:36:00.000-06:00How about..."I am so THANKFUL that I have EVERY ri...How about..."I am so THANKFUL<BR/> that I have EVERY right to my feelings... to be sad, be a scrooge and miss my little boy like crazy every day. And I am so THANKFUL that you all understand my sadness and reasons for not always feeling the way you think I should." (Sit down and smile)<BR/>Hope it goes better than you anticipate...I'll be thinking of you and of course little smiling Myles!Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10706512165626088406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-37304698502469705612008-11-26T20:23:00.000-06:002008-11-26T20:23:00.000-06:00Oh, man! Mothers! I wish I had some comforting wor...Oh, man! Mothers! I wish I had some comforting words. You do what feels best for you!Dorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17040448531379657293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-5503485645755994482008-11-26T18:22:00.000-06:002008-11-26T18:22:00.000-06:00The first holidays are hard...we didn't really dec...The first holidays are hard...we didn't really decorate at all, just put up a tree last year. <BR/><BR/>All I can say, is do what you need to do for you and don't worry about anyone else.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-25295436177002601392008-11-26T17:55:00.000-06:002008-11-26T17:55:00.000-06:00Niki, do whatever you need to make it through the ...Niki, do whatever you need to make it through the holidays. Those who don't get it have never stood where you are and can't possibly know what you "should" be doing or how you "should" be feeling. <BR/><BR/>Sending hugs and strength that you survive the dinner tomorrow and the rest of 2008.Lost in Spacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07027117135940864685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-91825860971251145972008-11-26T17:43:00.000-06:002008-11-26T17:43:00.000-06:00Niki,You are not being a scrooge, you are a grievi...Niki,<BR/><BR/>You are not being a scrooge, you are a grieving mother and have every right to feel the way you are feeling. Put up a tree only if you feel like it or don’t put one up.......do what makes you feel best (or least sad). The ordainments sound beautiful. I remember how hard the holidays were while going through infertility and I was only dealing with a small amount of the pain you have been dealt.....every year I would go out to cut down our tree with DH and wonder if this was going to finally be *the* year. Big (((((HUGS)))) and love to you and J.<BR/><BR/>I am so glad you posted a picture of K. She is as beautiful on the outside as she is in the inside. She’s an angel. <BR/><BR/>SheriSheri-cthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17356252792156995748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-87811816422273022122008-11-26T17:31:00.000-06:002008-11-26T17:31:00.000-06:00Our moms must be friends. I've had that exact con...Our moms must be friends. I've had that exact conversation with my mom.<BR/><BR/>And I'm like you, doing exactly what I want to do this Christmas.<BR/><BR/>Thinking of you and Myles today.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09211028670642739808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4326892427706733269.post-2009467578384972092008-11-26T17:29:00.000-06:002008-11-26T17:29:00.000-06:00Oh honey. . . I'm sorry. You do with Christmas wha...Oh honey. . . I'm sorry. You do with Christmas what you can and what you want.Mrs. Spithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03386820063407910064noreply@blogger.com